Have you caught yourself in a long distance relationship with a bad texter? 

This is the most common problem in all kinds of long distance relationships. 

Dealing with a bad texter in a long distance relationship can make it harder for you. 

But this doesn’t have to be a problem anymore.

In this post, I’ll share what to do if you’re in a long distance relationship with a bad texter. 

struggling in long distance relationship with a bad texter

But first I want to address this common question. 

Is texting important in a long-distance relationship?

Yes and No. 

If your relationship is mainly texts that go back and forth and that’s the only way you communicate. 

Then this is a big problem.

Especially, if you have been in LDR for some time. 

However, communicating regularly with your LDR partner is essential. 

Be it texts, video calls or even playing games together. 

READ MORE: 17 Long Distance Relationship Question Games for LDR Couples 

So what to do in long distance relationship with a bad texter

So if you have caught yourself with a bad texter in a long distance relationship, no worries. 

Initially, it will seem challenging, and you might feel that they’re not interested in you. 

However, this is not always the case. 

Some don’t have the natural ability to make conversations through texts. 

You can check out this post I wrote about never running out of topics in long-distance relationships.

How do you deal with a bad texter in a relationship?

1- It’s not about you

The first thing to understand, getting rid of this problem once and for all, is that this is not about you or your fault. 

As I mentioned, some just don’t have the nature to text as others. 

2- Take the lead 

Instead of whining about your partner being a bad texter do something about it. 

Take the lead in the conversation. 

And yes, maybe you do this already, and still nothing is improving. 

But you need to change your mindset about this problem. 

You check your phone, and you don’t get anything from your LDR partner, and the first thought you have is, here we go again. 

Then you start texting, it’s going to translate into what you just sent to your partner. 

Instead, be open and mindful about what you’re sending. 

You’ll be amazed at how it changes the way you’re texting. 

3- Talk about it 

I know you might have done that already, or you wouldn’t be reading this post. 

But there is a difference between talking and complaining about it. 

Look at this conversation below:

Why haven’t texted anything back so far? 

I asked you many times how are you and all you say is ok. 

You seem busy or don’t want to talk. 

Sounds familiar?

Verses, this conversation

Hey, I know we talked about this before, but I feel like I need to talk about it again. 

I feel like our texts go nowhere, and we end up talking about the same thing over and over again. 

So, I want this to be about both of us not just me who always talking about it. 

But, maybe we should do video calls more often than texts? 

Guaranteed, the second conversation will get your bad texter partner talking. 

4- Offer variations

In this day and age, everyone just loves texting. 

And it is for a reason. 

More convenient and you don’t have to carry on a long conversation. 

But in a long-distance relationship, this is different. 

This is the only way you can communicate together. 

Is it though? 

The only tip I can give in a long-distance relationship is to have different means of communication.

Don’t just rely on texts as a way of communication. 

Different ways to commuincate with a bad texter in long distance relationship

READ MORE: 13 Beyond Video Call First Date Ideas for Long Distance Couples 

Yes, you might be in the early stages of LDR, but that doesn’t mean that you should be stuck at only texts. 

Different variations of communications can be like this: 

  • Calls. 
  • Video calls.
  • Online games
  • Connection games. 
  • Sharing clips of your day. 
  • Doing something together. 
  • Sending pictures. 

And more. 

You’ll be surprised at how this changes your LDR. 

READ MORE: Long Distance Relationship Conversation Ideas: Connecting Deeper for New Couples

5- Accept it

You need to accept it at a certain point if you tried everything and still your partner is a bad texter. 

Being okay with it will determine how you want to carry on with this problem. 

You might want to ask yourself these questions:

Are you okay with how you communicate?

Can you still have a strong LDR with a bad texter?

Did you try all the solutions? 

These questions will guide you on what to do next. 

How often should you text when dating long-distance?

There is no rule of thumb regarding how often you should text in a long-distance relationship. 

Some have amazing long-distance relationships by only calling once a week. 

I know for me, it was important to text and have other means of communication. 

So this question only depends on you and your partner. 

How often can you text? Can you only rely on Texts?

This should be set at the early stage of your LDR. 

READ MORE: Daily Talk or Not: The Long-Distance Dilemma

Should you text everyday in long-distance?

In my 4 years of LDR, we have texted almost every single day. 

Another old friend texted randomly during her LDR, and it worked just fine for both of them. 

There are no two relationships the same. 

Some would want to text every day in a long-distance relationship. 

And some are okay texting occasionally. 

Again, this should be decided between you and your LDR partner. 

If you wanna text every day, then, by all means, go for it. 

How to deal with a bad texter in long distance relationship

Is it okay to not to talk daily in long-distance relationship?

In LDR, this is a very common question. 

And yes, for some good reason. 

The only way you feel connected is through talking. 

But the questions depend on how you feel regarding that issue. 

If you’re both okay with not talking daily, then hats off to you. 

If you or your partner is not okay with that, then you need to address this problem. 

As I mentioned before, anything in LDR needs to be decided between you two. 

What is okay and what is not okay? 

Final thoughts 

Being in a long distance relationship with a bad texter is more common than you think. 

This is why it’s important to set a ground rule from the beginning about how would you communicate. 

So, if you ever caught yourself with a bad texter in LDR, you know how to handle it now. 

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Hi, I'm Amira, and I've been in a long-distance relationship for four years. I know how tough and fun it can be to love someone far away. I made this blog to share what I've learned and help new long-distance couples. Let's make being far from each other feel a little easier.