If you scratched your head many times during your long-distance relationship conversations with your partner with this one question: What to talk about at the beginning of an LDR?

Or looking for Long Distance Relationship Conversation Ideas.

Then you’re in the right place. 

In the beginning, it can be a bit intimidating, as you’re trying to figure each other out.

You don’t want to sound pushy or try too hard to make a conversation. 

But the beginning phase is the most challenging phase of LDR, that’s right. 

You’re trying to figure out your style of communication and whether you or your partner is a good texter. 

All that is okay at the beginning of a long-distance relationship. 

maintain healthy conversation during long distance relationship with these conversation ideas

At the beginning of my LDR, I was consistently thinking about what to talk about next. 

And, with time, this question was gone. 

As you learn to become comfortable with your partner, it becomes easy to initiate conversation. 

So in this guide, I’ll share with you long-distance relationship conversation ideas, from the beginning till the end. 

To help you get emotionally deeper together, no matter how far you are. 

Let’s get started with long-distance relationship discussion topics. 

How do you keep a conversation going in a long-distance relationship?

I understand this may be your first concern when starting a long-distance relationship. 

How to keep a conversation going when you’re starting out. 

  • Understand that you’re both figuring each other out. 
  • You’re trying to figure out the way you communicate. 
  • The point is to feel connected miles away. 

So with that in mind, it’ll help you that it’s not the problem to figure out what to talk about. 

READ MORE: 10 solutions for when running out of things to talk about in long distance relationship

It’s more important to feel the connection no matter what you’re talking about. 

Engaging Long Distance Relationship Conversation Ideas

Initiating Meaningful Conversations

When figuring out what to talk about, make sure to take it slow.

You don’t need to talk about everything from the get-go. 

The best way to have a meaningful conversation is to feel connected when you’re talking. 

Whether that’s through text or video call. 

You don’t want the conversation to turn into an interview with questions and answers. 

This is the best advice I can give you. 

Starting the Conversation: Icebreakers and Openers

It can be challenging at first, but engaging in meaningful conversation in a long-distance relationship can be a huge opener and icebreaker for you. 

  • Ask about their day: The answer doesn’t have to be Great and Good, but it can be sharing with your LDR partner what happened during the day for either of you. 
  • What have you been doing lately: A simple twist on what you’re doing question, is a great conversation opener. 
  •  Any exciting news: This encourages your LDR partner to initiate a conversation about exciting news they may have. 
  • What’s your plan for today: Keeping up with what they’re planning during their day will connect you no matter how far you are. 
  • How’s your morning so far: If you’re in the same time zone, you can ask this simple question. 

These are simple yet effective conversation openers in long-distance. 

It’ll help you feel connected with your LDR partner and stay in the loop about what’s going on in their life. 

Remember, this is not only a conversation starter, but it can be used every day to communicate with your SO. 

READ MORE: 13 Beyond Video Call First Date Ideas for Long-Distance Couples 

Break the ice with these long distance conversation ideas

Setting the Mood: Creating a Comfortable Environment

As you get comfortable initiating conversations together, you’ll feel comfortable having other long-distance relationship conversation ideas to talk about. 

It doesn’t matter how long it’s taking for both of you, there is no timetable for what kind of conversation you can talk about. 

Topics to Deepen Your Connection

As you progress in your conversations with your long-distance relationship partner and start feeling more comfortable, you can move on to the next step

Deep connection conversations. 

Exploring Shared Interests

If this is something you haven’t touched on yet with your LDR partner, then this is the time to start talking about your interests. 

  • What is something you enjoyed doing lately: Your SO could have picked up a new interest that they enjoyed and will be a great conversation for both of you. 
  • What did you enjoy doing but not anymore: As we grow, we go in phases. It helps to keep in touch with your LDR partner’s interests. 
  • What would you like to do but have no time for it: We all have this one thing we keep putting off.

Discussing Future Plans

It’s important to discuss this topic early on to see if you’re on the same page. 

It is surprising to know that many long-distance relationship dies because of different future plans. 

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  • What will be our main way to communicate: whether that’s texting, calling, or video chatting? 
  • Which app we will use for communication: It’s important to have mutual agreement on which app you’ll use for communication. 
  • What would you like our next step to be: Whether that’s meeting for the first time, or planning a trip together. 
  • How long you plan to be in LDR: Knowing this early on will reduce your chances of finding out one day that your LDR partner can’t do it any longer. 
  • What are your future plans: Whether that’s for you or for your partner, it’s good to know what are your plans for the future. 
  • When do you expect we can close the distance: Try to figure a time that works for both of you.
  • Are you willing to move where I live: This question depends on many things, but the idea is still the same if you live in different countries or states. 

Navigating Difficult Topics

This is inevitable. 

Being in a long-distance relationship is hard and lonely, and it’s one of the harshest facts of being in a long-distance relationship

Whether that’s handling time zone differences or communication problems.

 Those are things you have to deal with.

Sometimes there is so much going on in your life and it can feel like it might take forever to close the gap.

I have been in the same place when the pandemic happened. 

It will get hard to talk about those topics but those are the things you can’t control. 

But, sometimes it’s not even about the distance or closing the gap. 

It could be your jealousy or your partner’s jealousy that’s hard to navigate. 

No matter what it is, it’s important to address this as soon as it happens. 

  •  What if one of us wants to move, but the other isn’t ready?
  •  How do we keep the romance alive when we can’t be together?
  • How can we avoid misunderstandings and miscommunications?
  • Handling time zone differences is challenging; any tips?

READ MORE: How long can a long-distance relationship last without seeing each other

Fun and Creative long distance Conversation Ideas

Now, onto the fun part. 

If you reached the point in your long-distance relationship where you can talk about anything, congrats!

From here, you can try to incorporate fun and creative conversation ideas in your long-distance.

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1. Virtual Travel Dates

  Pick a destination that you and you’re partner would like to visit one day.

Research everything about that destination, and collect photos as well. 

Then share interesting facts about the destination. 

Remember to imagine yourself being there. 

Planning virtual night to maintain healthy long distance relationship with conversation ideas

2. Bucket List Exchange

This one is more fun to do when you’re texting. 

Each one of you creates a bucket list.

Write everything you want, you can make it only theme-related.

Like travel theme or relationship theme. 

Or, it can be anything you would like to do one day when you’re reunited. 

Remember the idea is to have fun and to share your dreams together, no matter how far is the distance between you. 

Bucket list book to share with your LDR partner

3. Movie Night

If you haven’t tried movie night, I suggest you try it at least once. 

In my long-distance relationship, this was our top thing to do almost every night after a long day. 

You don’t need a streaming service or any app to do that. 

Just pick a movie you both like to watch and press play once you are both ready. 

It’s as simple as that. 

Share photos from the movie while watching to create a better experience. 

It’ll make you feel that you’re both connecting and doing something together, even when you are apart. 

Choose a movie or TV show to watch together. You can sync up your viewing and chat about it in real-time.

watching movie from a far will get you even closer.

4. Book Club for Two

You don’t have to be a book geek for this one to work for both of you but you have to have the same interest in the book you are reading. 

Pick a book and start reading together and set a time for when to finish. 

Remember your speed may be different than your partner’s speed and that’s okay. 

But once you’re both done with each chapter, discuss the characters, the plot, and your thoughts as you progress throughout the book. 

I only tried it once and never again, this is why make sure that you’re both into the same book. 

Reading boook even though you're far with the distance

5. Question of the Day 

No need to be limited when it comes to the question of the day. 

You ask thought-provoking or fun questions daily. 

It can be anything from “If you could time travel, where and when would you go?” to “What’s your all-time favorite dessert?”

6. Foodie Video Calls

If you have the same time zone or slight difference, this can be a great fun idea to try together. 

You can either cook together on a video or watch your partner cook. 

Either way, it’s a lot of fun to share together. 

You can also make videos and share them with your partner, which is what I personally did.

Doing video call chat with your ldr partner

7. Trivia Challenge

What’s more fun than to test one’s knowledge with trivia challenges?

Choose a topic idea to test your knowledge on.

 Really anything is on the table. 

Or, you can do that online. 

There are many websites that offer playing together. 

The only one I know is working is through the messenger app games. 

Not sure if it’s available anymore though. 

Here are some trivia ideas:

  • History trivia.
  • Food and drink trivia.
  • Around the world trivia. 
  • Technology Trivia.
  • Animal Trivia.

To make it more fun, try to add a timer.

Playing trivia challenge through video chat

8. Dream Board Share

There used to be a time when I was obsessed with creating dream boards. 

I’m not going to talk about manifesting topic here, but what I want to highlight is to keep your dreams in front of you. 

I suggest to make it as simple as you can. 

Collect photos that represent what you would like to do in the future and quotes that inspire you. 

And create it into a collage. 

I did mine in a few places. 

  • Google docs. 
  • Canva. 
  • Background wallpaper. 
  • Physical one.
  • Pinterest. 
Dream vision board

But for the purpose of the long-distance topic, your best is to do on on any online platform and share it with your partner. 

You can also make your partner collaborate on the same board and add their visions as well. 

9. Show and Tell

There will be times when you and your partner are just chilling and texting. 

This is the time when you can do this fun conversation idea. 

Choose any item from your surroundings and share a story about it. 

It could be a coffee mug, how your room came to be, or even your favorite childhood toy. 

This is an amazing idea, cause it encourages natural conversation rather than a planned one. 

10. Photo Exchange:

This one is self-explanatory and yet it’s easier to miss. 

But I wouldn’t go a day without sharing a photo of my day. 

Whether that’s breakfast, running errands, or something interesting on TV. 

This will create a connection with your long-distance partner and it’ll let them know that you’re thinking about them during your day. 

Sharing photo through phone

11. Future Planning

If you feel comfortable talking with your SO about future plans, then do it. 

It’s important to discuss early on such a topic. 

It’s tricky, as at the beginning you discover each other but in a long-distance relationship, you have to know where this will go. 

It can be mentally challenging for both of you. 

So the best way is to start the conversation about long-term plans, and where would you like to live when you finally close the gap.

You can also discuss future trips you can plan together. 

12. Spotify Playlist

I’m hesitant to share that one, cause I haven’t personally tried it. 

I would only send some of my favorite songs from YouTube and that’s it. 

But you can do that on Spotify as well if you both have an account. 

And add your favorite tracks. 

creating spotify list to listen to music together

13. Online Games

If you’re a video game geek this will be your favorite thing to do together. 

The idea here is to find long-distance conversation ideas.

This one is the same approach as you will talk during your interaction in the game. 

This could have it’s own blog post one day but for now, any kind of online games works. 

Some of the games we tried are:

  • Ludo games. 
  • The witcher (This one we just play at the same time, same quests)
  • 8 Ball Pool.

Final thoughts 

For new long-distance relationship couples, it can be hard to communicate well or find new and interesting conversation ideas to discuss. 

This is why I hope these 13 long-distance relationship conversion ideas will spark up your relationship and make your distance less apart. 

Try them out and let me know which one you’re most likely to try. 

And what other topic ideas you would like to include? 

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Hi, I'm Amira, and I've been in a long-distance relationship for four years. I know how tough and fun it can be to love someone far away. I made this blog to share what I've learned and help new long-distance couples. Let's make being far from each other feel a little easier.